A Sparkling Wedding!

The last couple of days the sun has been out so we’ve been out! I always find the sun lifts my spirt, puts a smile on my face and draws me out to soak up the rays. At the weekend we headed down to the south coast for a friends wedding.

The wedding was beautiful, smiling faces, loved up couples and awkward funny speeches to top it off. It was so lovely to be able to lounge outside enjoying the wonderful beautiful scenery with the warmth of the sun on our faces the the cool breeze in our hair.  Everyone mingled and frolicked in the sun, children tumbled in the grass together. The beautiful bride and grooms smiles seemed even more dazzling as the photographer snapped away! The sun made the diamonds in her hair and on her dress sparkle bright as they caught the sun light!

I’ve been to weddings in the rain, everyone cooped up inside, looking out at the rain from the steamed up windows. The dance floor getting stuffyier and stuffier as we all get hot and sweaty dancing in the air tight room! Of course its still a special day but nothing makes the day even more special than the sun!

Here, every window and door was wide open to let in the fresh air, the sweet smell of summer wafted through as we danced salsa late into the night. Everyone looking bronzed with their sun kissed skin, shirts unbuttoned low and short dresses flashing long legs. We danced with such exhilaration, energised by the late evening sun. Filled with the warmth and joy of the moment, everyone seemed aglow with summer passion and excitement…especially the bride and groom as they waved goodbye, setting off on the beginning of the happily ever after adventure.

Two steps forward one step back…

Such is life, I try to clean my house one room at a time, I usually never make it more than two rooms….Thats because I have a little person following behind me un-doing all my hard work…..

I manage to sort out a pile of dry washing, I fold it neatly into three piles. One pile of my clothes, husbands, and Keziah’s…Oh no! Two piles have been thrown across the room before I even finish putting one away!

I being to tidy the box of toys, when I hear a bang and crash, my follower, Keziah has pulled out a different draw and chucked all the toys out over the floor.

I really need to get these clothes dry, I hastily  hang the washing up on the drying rack as you pull a row of socks off the radiator……aahhhhh!

Solution found, I put you in your cot so I can try and complete just one task and maybe clean my house, one room at a time!? You scream so loud I think the neighbours will come and nock! I pull you out and try distraction technique! A cuddly toy and a fantastic picture book, even a sweet tasting biscuit!

Five minutes to run round, make the beds, gather the washing, re-hand the washing before….your bouncing on the bed, undoing the tidiness again. You look so cute with your cheeky smile, I might as well join in the bouncing!

Who needs a tidy house anyway, whats wrong with a bit of mess?

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Unconditional Love, a love letter….

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Unconditional love, a love so deep, so vast words can’t begin to describe the feelings, the depth of emotion and force of its power. Its great need and yearning to love you and be with you….unconditional, no matter what you may do to me in the future to hurt me I will always love you. When you lie, cheat or steal, the pain you cause can never be so great to separate me from you, or cause that love to break. You may not always show me love, you may cry and shout, pull my hair and ignore me yet I will always love you with an everlasting love. Im so jealous for your time, you affections, to know you more each day. I want to know how your mind works, see you thrive and develop, to see what makes you feel alive. I love to see you laugh and smile, playing in the grass under the sun. You are so pure and so precious, your trust and dependance on me so simple. I want to walk with you as you grow and experience the world, to understand your wants and hurts…let me be there for you every step of the way. There will be times when your heart aches and mine will too. Let me be the one you turn to and lean your head on to cry. Know that you are always beautiful to me, be confident in your beauty and your identity. I want to show you and teach you to be strong and confident…..you can achieve all your hopes and dreams. I will always believe in you.

Let me into your secrets and let me know your desires, I want to see every one of them come true. I want you to be so happy and so loved, as much as I love you. I want the best future for you, that you would be safe and secure, cherished and adored. Your skin so soft and so delicate, I don’t ever want to see you bruised or hurt. Let me protect you and keep you warm, in my arms I hold you tight was a baby, I don’t ever wan to let you go. I know that you will grow up and walk your own path and life.

Yet with unconditional love I will let your wings spread and let you fly and soar…away from me. You will always be in my heart even if your the other side of the world, close by me you will feel. I can’t imagine us apart as we spend so much time together now. I look forward to you waking in the morning, all day we play, bouncing and laughing as we hug and sing. You have no idea how big the world is, waiting for you, waiting as you grow bigger and ready to explore and experience it. Although I would always keep you close by my side forever I know one day you will grow in a lady and one day even share your love with another. Then your eyes will be for another, not me. I love you with an unconditional love that binds me to you, no matter where you are or what you do I will always hold you in my heart and in my mind memories will be replying over and constantly, remembering all the precious moments and memories we have shared as you have grown up.

You are and we always be the apple of my eye, you bring me so much joy and pleasure, no one else has captivated me such as your eyes your smile your laugh. I will always love you, my first chid, my daughter, who one day will grow up to be a beautiful women held and adored by another. Then to have her own beautiful children and family who in turn I will love with all my heart. My first child I couldn’t love you any more…..nothing could make me love you more, no achievements, fame or fortune to come. Just as you are, you have my heart and my unconditional all encompassing love and affection. Your mother.

Romans 8v35, Isaiah 43v1-4

Who was your favourite teddy?

Keziah’s favourite teddy is Blossom a very cute fluffy bunny rabbit with a pink bow  given to her by her godmother Sarah! Although I am basing my book series on Keziah and Blossom I have recently done some research into which characters are currently popular in children’s books. Several blogs have stated the importance of creating a character that has the potential to be developed into merchandise such as stuffed teddies, clothes and more. I need to choose a character that is not going to be competing with lots of other established authors. I have found there are lots of cute bunnies such as the very famous Peter rabbit and all his family, and recently the rabbits from ‘Guess how much I Love you’ by Sam McBratney have been a huge success! Therefore sadly I have come to the decision using a different animal in my books, I will still keep the same name Blossom.

Creating a special character that children relate to and begin to fall in love with is important. I recently asked my friends and followers on Facebook to post what their favourite teddy was growing up and I had a great response! It was interesting to see such variety, there were spiders, elephants, crocodiles a clown and several different bears of different colours! Each had a special name, I felt privileged to learn about peoples teddies and there names as its such a precious memory to each person. I have lots of early childhood memories of playing with my teddies with my brother, we would dress them up, marry them off and play happy families for hours! No matter where I went my favourite teddy had to accompany me…whether to the toilet or on holiday. Im sure as parents we have had the nightmare of searching for the lost teddy! I still have a teddy from when I was born and I’m sure a lots of adults secretly still have theirs stored away somewhere special.

The character blossom in my book series is a very sensitive, caring and encouraging friend to Keziah. My illustrations are pencil water colour pictures so I need her to be very cute, cuddly and lovable. If you would like to share with me your favourite teddy and name I would love to hear them. Otherwise I have lots of food for thought in regards to the identity of Blossom and will keep you posted on my decision! Maybe go and find your bear, and reminisce about all those happy moments you shared! Im off to do just that! #KeziahandBlossom #childrensbook

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So many ideas, too little time…

I have my fingers in too many pies….having lots of ideas is great and exciting but too many can lead to distraction and gets us no where. I recently read a fantastic article called, Taming the Swarm, by Oliver Emberton who wrote about the need to focus on your top three goals in life, and say no to all the other options that swarm in our heads and pop up in front of us daily causing us to stay stationary.

We often have several projects on the go, we want to write a book, get at a new job, to move house, learn arabic! There is so much going on inside our heads that all these thoughts lead to stopping us from moving forward. To many great ideas cancel each other out! When you’re able to direct all your attention on your top three goals then your determination can lead to it being driven forward and success being achieved!

‘Most people aren’t failing because of their potential. They’re failing because their potential is spread in too many directions’. I’m guilty of this as I quickly start new projects and ideas when I don’t see or feel results quick enough. I mentioned my constant change and trying new projects in ‘A bit about me’ post. I love to learn and gain new skills but I’m coming to realise and understand the need to focus my attention so that more can be achieved in the long run…even if it doesn’t happen over night!

So how do we achieve our dreams and see big success?

  1. Go for your biggest and most exciting goals, the goals that most motivate you!
  2. No more than three! More than three objectives can lead to unnecessary distraction.
  3. Do the other ideas/goals another time, after your top three goals have been achieved you can go onto the next big dream (if you have time)!
  4. Watch out for distractions, new ideas can easily come in to steal our attention and slow our progress.
  5. Try to have your goals working together, if all three goals can compliment each other then you will be moving in one direction with more force.

Call to action, as a consequence of reading the article I have written down all my ideas catagorising them under three lists- Work, Family and Leisure. I then prioritised them in order of most important to me to least then took the top goal from each list and have made these my top goals to work towards. This has been really helpful to decide what is most important to me so I can now put a plan in place and see those goals accomplished! I’m excited, I hope you found this post useful and are motivated to dream big and home in on that dream becoming a reality!

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Just. Keep. Writing.

I’m reading a lot of posts about facing our fears, focusing on our goals and pushing through. As I start out on my journey to write and publish my books I feel a great encouragement as I read posts such as this one. I feel motivated to just keep writing because I love it, and enjoy the ride as I go!

Victoria (V.E.) Schwab

Hey there, lovelies!

I know it’s been awhile since I posted. I’ve spent the last few months buried under deadlines and finishing up coursework–so far this year I’ve gone to grad school, and written and edited THREE books, all coming out next year–and getting ready to head back to Nashville.

But in the slivers of space between, I’ve been reflecting a lot–about writing, publishing, advice–and I wanted to talk about a piece of advice that I know seems trite, but is honestly the best I can give. I’ll try to explain why.

Five years into my publishing career, I finally feel like I have my feet under me, and because of that, I’m often asked for advice.

When writers–aspiring, debut, and established–ask for insight, I always say, “Just keep writing.”

And I know that sounds like a very Dory thing to say, but the fact of the matter is, if…

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‘There is no such thing as super mum’

‘There is no such thing as super mum’….phew I was so glad to hear that! I was at a conference for mums last night ran by Care For The Family called Mum’s The Word! My husband, Dan joked before I left saying I bet they will say things like, your all beautiful amazing mums, your un sung heroes….well actually they did and it felt good! I think all mums works so hard and often don’t get any recognition or thanks. The room was packed with women of all different ages and backgrounds. Just being together and sharing that one common identity of being a mum made the event feel very special. There were first time parents, parents of five or more and even grandmas, all enjoyed the down to earth fun loving talks given by Cathy Madavan and Diane Louise Jordan.

The evening started with their stories of parenthood, struggling with messy moody children and feeling stressed and guilty as they compared them selvese to others mums who seemingly had everything under control! Often when you go behind the scenes its not really so perfect and under control! Ive met so many mums who compare their child and themselves to others, my babies not crawling yet, my baby has no teeth yet, yours sleeps through the night and wow look at you, you’ve lost all your baby weight-I haven’t! The list goes on and on, Ive been there and done that! It was good to hear that it is so common to do just that, but also good to be reminded that we must not as each of us is unique and different in special ways. Children all develop and learn in different ways and the most import thing we can give to a child is love! It sounds so cheesy but its so true and so important! They could not stress enough how learning to best love our children is the most rewarding thing we can do for them. A book called The 5 Love Languages for children (there is also one for adults) was talked about. They describe each of us with having a love tank which like a car when running low needs to be topped up. Each person feels love in a different way, each love language was discussed-Physical touch- like hugs, Words of affirmation-encouraging the child when they do well, Quality time-spending un-interupted time with your child , Grifts-giving something that time and thought has gone into such as a special song or photo album, finally Acts of service-once in a while tidying their room as a special treat. Its important as parents we learn how are children feel most loved and show them in their specific ways to keep their love tanks full. Its a great read so worth buying a copy to understand in a greater depth each love language identified.

I lost count how many times I said No then ended up shouting No at my daughter yesterday! So often when our children keep mis behaving we feel at wits end and start to loose control our selves. Last night they spoke about reacting V responding! It was very interesting to see the clear difference between shouting at the child (reacting) or stopping to ask them why they were acting in this way. Dian gave the example of how she asked her grand son to wait outside a shop with her dog as there was no where for him to be tied. He responded by saying ‘no way’ with attidude, she stopped her self from getting angry and simply asked why. He said he was scared that he would be taken if left alone outside the shop. Often there is a reason behind a behaviour, the reason for the little boys attitude was fear. If we stop a while to ask why and go deeper then some behaviour can be resolved. There were so many fantastic ideas and tips given, but the ones i have written about were the ones which stood out for me!

I leave you with, There is no recipe for the perfect child…they are all different and special in their own way! #MTW2015

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